Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in ＿＿（22）＿＿ with others. But to survive as ourselves, we have to act alone. In some ways, all people are the same: we all eat, drink and sleep. But in some ways, each person is different, and individuals’ different wants and preferences may ＿＿（23）＿＿ with one another. Offered the same menu, people make different, independent choices.