Most of us became skilled at managing, or at least trying to manage, the lives of many people. We _____ 42 _____ the responsibilities of family members far too often. We were trying, consciously or unconsciously, to meet very high _____ 43 _____ of ourselves too. So when we heard others talk about their struggle with taking full responsibility for their lives, we didn't take it seriously at first. Surely many of us were already doing that.