Attitudes of respect, modesty and fair play can grow only out of slowly acquired skills that parents teach their children 16.many years through shared experience and memory. If a child reaches adulthood with recollections only of television, Little League, and birthday parties, then that child has _17. to draw on when a true test of character comes up-say, in a prickly business situation. "_18. that child feels grounded in who he is and where he comes from, everything else is an act," says etiquette expert Betty Jo Trakimas. A family of her friend's reserve every Friday night as "family night" with their three children. Often the family plays board games or hide-and-seek. "My children love it," says the mother. Can playing hide-and-seek really teach a child about19.? Yes, say Trakimas and others, because it tells the child that his parents care enough to spend time with him, he is loved and can learn to love others. "Manners aren't about using the right fork," agrees etiquette instructor Patricia Gilbert-Hinz. "Manners are about being _20.--giving compliments, team-playing, making tiny sacrifices. Children learn that through their parents.'